An unidentified lady is in dilemma over the action of her husband to her parents. In a post made by Great Otuu on Marriage counsellor facebook group, he explained that her parents collected N580,000 from her husband during the payment of her bride price. She said as at then her husband was only receiving N70,000 as monthly pay.
After the marriage, she requested her husband to be sending monthly stipends to her parents, the husband told her that he is owing her parents nothing and he cannot do that, though is sending to his own parents in the village. She said she was not angry at that.
But a time, came her brother was to marry and the bill given to him was N400,000. Her father shared N120,000 to her husband to pay and again, the man refused saying he is owing her parents nothing.
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A SISTER NEEDS ADVICE…
“I got married 8 months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the trad wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.
He was able to raise the Money bag as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parent as he do send to his parent too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parent anything..
…that they have collected all they are entitled to from him, initially I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which is amounted to 400k.
My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance..
….this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible. Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2yrs of courting..
Please our mummies and daddies kindly advise me on what to do to savor the situation, I am in between my husband and my family.