BY OGECHUKWU AKPOTOHWO
Sex is one topic that some people will rather remain dumb than stalk about. Fortunately, God created it for the purpose of procreation and pleasure within the confines of marriage. Marriage is honourable and requires stern discipline cum commitment. It is not a venture for people laden with feeble minds. Marriage, to a stranger, is often times impossible, although due to some logistics some people have found themselves married to a total stranger. However, on a normal norm, people usually go into relationship before they proceed to settle down as husbands and wives.
Due to the fact that human beings are wired to desire love and be given love a lot of young boys and girls due to lack of proper guidance embark on love relationship which is obviously at the wrong time. This venture comes with dire consequences as they are not matured enough to handle certain responsibilities that accompany pre-marital sexual relationships. It is not uncommon in the present time to hear young boys and girls far below the stipulated ages of marriage talk about marriage with utmost ignorance. Often times the driving force gearing this marital quest is lust occasioned by uncontrollable high sexual drive. And so our children secretly or obviously engage in what is generally known as boy friend -girl friend relationship.
Some schools of thought have argued the definition of this term. For some youths being close to a person of the opposite sex is completely unruly. While some are of the view that given the right mindset and guidance, it is safe for people of opposite sex to be in a very close and cordial relationship. It is important to state that the Oxford advanced learners dictionary defines boyfriends or girlfriends as people engaged in sexual relationship. Out of curiosity some youths have asked if it is wrong for people of opposite sex to be in a very close and intimate relationship. The answer is relative.
Indeed, experience has shown that being in a relationship with the opposite sex may or may not lead to sexual escapades. This is due to the obvious fact that humanity has become extremely depraved thus injecting more inhumane sexual practices into the system. As such, people of same sex may also engage in various degrees of shameful sexual practices.
A lot of people including some religious bodies, educational institutions, non governmental bodies etcetera, have painstakingly made massive efforts to enlighten the youths on the dangers inherent in unwholesome sexual practices. However, making sex education a part of the school’s curriculum will have a lasting impact in reducing the trend of sexual misbehavior among our youths.
The obvious truth is that a lot of parents, adults and teachers may be uncomfortable to discuss morally acceptable sexual behavior with their children or wards. Making it a part of our education system like other subjects such as civic education, security education and others will presuppose that teachers are trained to teach this subject thus effectively driving the message home.
It may be surprising how much false information on sexual matters our youths have gulfed into their memory. Making sex education a subject in our schools will avail our children the undeniable opportunities to garner the right information on sexual matters.
A school of thought has argued against making sex education a subject in our schools. The argument is based on the fear that exposing our children to sex education may rouse their curiosity thereby increasing the rate of sexual perversion in the already depraved society. This is obviously not going to hold water because it is a well known fact that knowledge is power. Hence equipping our children with the right knowledge on sexual matters will help them to make right decision based on the information they have received.