I’ve been through lots of heartbreaks because I decide to remain a virgin till I get married – 30-year-old lady
I am a 30 years old lady, still a virgin. I have been through lots of heartbreaks because I refused to give in to sex before marriage.
Last year, I met this guy and he promised to wait with me till marriage. Few months later he engaged me and I accepted. During this period of dating him, I noticed he is a very stingy type.
He hardly gives even when I ask, he complains that he doesn’t have. Sometimes I feel its because we were just dating maybe he wants to be very sure I’m serious with him before he will start spending on me, that was my thought though.
He has a good job.
A month after our engagement he was promoted. That was what I had always wished and prayed for and God answered my prayers.
We did our introduction January and two weeks after I went back to the city where I work, I was attacked by armed robbers and they asked me to transfer the money I had in my account to theirs or else they will rape and kill me, so I had to do as they commanded.
A week later I pleaded with my fiance to help me with some money cos I was broke due to what happened a week earlier. He sympathised with me and asked me if I had called my father.
He told me that he doesn’t have money that I should tell my dad to help me that the money he have is what he wants to use for our wedding.
I was like really? I got so angry and asked him if those guys had killed me, will he be talking about wedding.
I thought he would change after our introduction but it’s so obvious he is stingy.
I decided to put an end to everything because its obvious when I get married to him, I would be using my salary to take care of him and my children while he keeps his own. It was a difficult decision to make but it was for my own good anyway.
I called my parents and his parents and told them everything. They were all disappointed in him.
Few days later, his friend told me that the reason he doesn’t give me anything I ask is because I decided to close my legs for him and he also had to close his pocket.
I was shocked because this is someone who never complained about sex through out our courtship, little did I know that he wasn’t happy about us not having sex.
I thought I had finally found the right person who is willing to wait, I thought I had found love.
Another thing that pains me was his friend getting to know that I’m a virgin. This was what I thought was a secret. This guy told his friends that I am a virgin. Only God knows how many people he told about this.
I’m so pained right now, I thought he was God’s sent to make up for all the heartbreaks I have encountered in the past. Little did I know that he is even worse. Is it a crime to be a virgin?
Almost all my friends are married and they weren’t even virgins before marriage, yet they keep seeing men who cares for them and values them.But my own case is different. I can’t think of any crime that I have committed to deserve all of these.
I remember a very close friend of mine once told me that keeping my virginity may not guarantee me a good man. I felt she wanted me to give it up and join the league, but I’m beginning to see reasons with her somehow.
I am so pained, sometimes I feel like giving up. I just need words of advice and encouragement to keep me going.
Sorry for the long post please 🙏