There is a video circulating on Whatsapp. It’s about a woman who said she was quitting her marriage with her husband whom she called Kayode. And what is her reason? She piled up her undies for days in the toilet unwashed and her husband was displeased with her for that. That is one. The second issue is that having used the toilet, she invited her husband to help her clean up her bombom. The man was unhappy and pounced on her with much beating.
The woman whose name was not given in the video and with bruised and bandaged face, had contacted her lawyer is demanding for divorce as she is ready to quit the marriage. She said she expected her husband to help out in washing her pants because she was tired. Although her reason for her tiredness was not given in the video on the whatsapp, she has expressed her desire to end up the marriage because, according to her, her husband is intolerant and lacks understanding.
The issue generated heated argument among participants in the Whatsapp platform. Among the over 200 people in the professional platform, one lady who could be described as a feminist, condemned the husband for dealing with the wife in such a manner. For her, it was wrong to beat up a woman for piling up her panties for days and demanding the husband to wash her bombom after using the toilet.
Her reaction drew the ire of men in the platform. Most of the men described the action of the woman as being that of a lazy woman and not well brought up by her parents and especially her mother. Some argued that she failed to be beaten in her parents’ home and that is a carryover for her. So, she is receiving that beating now.
Others said she had out rightly sacked herself from the marriage and described her as a typical woman poorly brought up by her parents. They described her as lacking in home training and that she was spoon fed by her parents. They added that she must learn good character or else she will continue to have marriage issues.
Another man added: “She said she is done with the marriage, she is really done. No man in his right senses will opt for such a lazy woman as wife. You want to attract sympathy. You are on your own. Even your family members will abandon you. Look for something else and stop shedding your shameless tears.”
But the feminist in the platform was not ready to accept such from the men. She was baffled that all the men almost reacted in same manner, complaining of the woman’s lazy attitude and demanding her husband to wash her bombom after using the toilet. For her, the men have looked away from the violence done to the woman and concentrated their attention on the laziness and uncultured attitude of the woman. That was not fair in her judgment.
She asked the house: “So you justify this level of beating and violence done to her? If she were your sister, you will also condone the violence meted out on her? Is what she did deserving of this violence done to her?”
The lady wondered that professionals who should be sensitive to human right issues would gloss over this level of violence so easily. Then she queried: “what do we tell others who commit heinous crimes on other humans, be they women, men or children?”
Another man in the group added: “There is always a cause for an action. Marriages are grossly failing today in Africa particularly in Nigeria because of borrowed western cultures. If you read lately, they are even trying to right the wrongs. My sister, the Africa and indeed Nigeria traditions, norms and values put aside the human sacrifice, remain the best way going forward for us.
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